Building great people, because great people build great families and great families build great communities.
To God be the glory!

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Day 40: Love is a covenant

Where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God. Ruth 1:16

TODAY’S DARE
Write out a renewal of your vows and place them in your home. Perhaps, if appropriate, you could make arrangements to formally renew your wedding vows before a minister and with family present. Make it a living testament to the value of marriage in God’s eyes and the high honor of being one with your mate.

Monday, May 23, 2011

Day 39: Love endures

Love never fails.1 Corinthians 13:8

TODAY’S DARE
Spend time in personal prayer, then write a letter of commitment and resolve to your spouse. Include why you are committing to this marriage until death, and that you have purposed to love them no matter what. Leave it in a place that your mate will find it.

Sunday, May 22, 2011

Day 38: Love fulfills dreams

Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart.
Psalm 37:4

TODAY’S DARE
Ask yourself what your mate would want if it was obtainable. Commit this to prayer, and start mapping out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires, to whatever level you possibly can.

Saturday, May 21, 2011

Day 37: Love agrees in prayer

If two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father. Matthew 18:19

TODAY’S DARE
Ask your spouse if you can begin praying together. Talk about the best time to do this, whether it’s in the morning, your lunch hour, or before bedtime. Use this time to commit your concerns, disagreements, and needs before the Lord. Don’t forget to thank Him for His provision and blessing. Even if your spouse refuses to do this, resolve to spend this daily time in prayer yourself.

Friday, May 20, 2011

Day 36: Love is God’s Word

Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. Psalm 119:105

TODAY’S DARE
Commit to reading the Bible every day. Find a devotional book or other resource that will give you some guidance. If your spouse is open to it, see if they will commit to daily Bible reading with you. Begin submitting each area of your life to its guidance and start building on the rock.

Thursday, May 19, 2011

Day 35: Love is accountable

Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.
Proverbs 15:22 NIV

TODAY’S DARE
Find a marriage mentor—someone who is a strong Christian and who will be honest and loving with you. If you feel that counseling is needed, then take the first step to set up an appointment. During this process, ask God to direct your decisions and discernment.

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Day 34: Love celebrates godliness

[Love] does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth.
1 Corinthians 13:6

TODAY’S DARE
Find a specific, recent example when your spouse demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way. Verbally commend them for this at some point today.

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Day 33: Love completes each other

If two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone?
Ecclesiastes 4:11

TODAY’S DARE
Recognize that your spouse is integral to your future success. Let them know today that you desire to include them in your upcoming decisions, and that you need their perspective and counsel. If you have ignored their input in the past, admit your oversight and ask them to forgive you.

Monday, May 16, 2011

Day 32: Love meets sexual needs

The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 1 Corinthians 7:3

TODAY’S DARE
If at all possible, try to initiate sex with your husband or wife today. Do this in a way that honors what your spouse has told you (or implied to you) about what
they need from you sexually. Ask God to make this enjoyable for both of you as well as a path to greater intimacy.

Sunday, May 15, 2011

Day 31: Love and marriage

A man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24

TODAY’S DARE
Is there a “leaving” issue you haven’t been brave enough to conquer yet? Confess it to your spouse today, and resolve to make it right. The oneness of your marriage is dependent upon it. Follow this with a commitment to your spouse and to God to make your marriage the top priority over every other human relationship.

Saturday, May 14, 2011

Day 31: Love and marriage

A man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24

TODAY’S DARE
Is there a “leaving” issue you haven’t been brave enough to conquer yet? Confess it to your spouse today, and resolve to make it right. The oneness of your marriage is dependent upon it. Follow this with a commitment to your spouse and to God to make your marriage the top priority over every other human relationship.

Friday, May 13, 2011

Day 29: Love’s motivation

Render service with a good attitude, as to the Lord and not to men. Ephesians 6:7

TODAY’S DARE
Before you see your spouse again today, pray for them by name and for their needs. Whether it comes easy for you or not, say “I love you,” then express love to them in some tangible way. Go to God in prayer again, thanking Him for giving you the privilege of loving this one special person—unconditionally, the way He loves both of you.

Thursday, May 12, 2011

Day 30: Love brings unity

Father, keep them in Your name, the name which You have given Me, that they may be one even as We are. John 17:11

TODAY’S DARE
Isolate one area of division in your marriage, and look on today as a fresh opportunity to pray about it. Ask the Lord to reveal anything in your own heart that is threatening oneness with your spouse. Pray that He would do the same for them. And if appropriate, discuss this matter openly, seeking God for unity.

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Day 28: Love makes sacrifices

He laid down His life for us. We should also lay down our lives for our brothers.
1 John 3:16 HCSB

TODAY’S DARE
What is one of the greatest needs in your spouse’s life right now? Is there a need you could lift from their shoulders today by a daring act of sacrifice on your part? Whether the need is big or small, purpose to do what you can to meet the need.

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Day 27: Love encourages

Guard my soul and deliver me; do not let me be ashamed, for I take refuge in You.
Psalm 25:20

TODAY’S DARE
Eliminate the poison of unrealistic expectations in your home. Think of one area where your spouse has told you you’re expecting too much, and tell them you’re sorry for being so hard on them about it. Promise them you’ll seek to understand, and assure them of your unconditional love.

Monday, May 09, 2011

Day 26: Love is responsible

When you judge another, you condemn yourself, since you, the judge, do the same things. Romans 2:1 HCSB

TODAY’S DARE
Take time to pray through your areas of wrongdoing. Ask for God’s forgiveness, then humble yourself enough to admit them to your spouse. Do it sincerely and truthfully. Ask your spouse for forgiveness as well. No matter how they respond, make sure you cover your responsibility in love. Even if they respond with criticism, accept it by receiving it as counsel.

Sunday, May 08, 2011

Day 25: Love forgives

What I have forgiven, if I have forgiven anything, I did it for your sakes in the presence of Christ. II 2 Corinthians 2:10

TODAY’S DARE
Whatever you haven’t forgiven in your mate, forgive it today. Let it go. Just as we ask Jesus to “forgive us our debts” each day, we must ask Him to help us “forgive our debtors” each day as well. Unforgiveness has been keeping you and your spouse in prison too long. Say from your heart, “I choose to forgive.”

Saturday, May 07, 2011

Day 24: Love vs. Lust

The world is passing away, and also its lusts; but the one who does the will of God lives forever. 1 John 2:17

TODAY’S DARE
End it now. Identify every object of lust in your life and remove it. Single out every lie you’ve swallowed in pursuing forbidden pleasure and reject it. Lust cannot be allowed to live in a back bedroom. It must be killed and destroyed—today—and replaced with the sure promises of God and a heart filled with His perfect love.

Friday, May 06, 2011

Day 23: Love always protects

[Love] always protects. 1 Corinthians 13:7 NIV

TODAY’S DARE
Remove anything that is hindering your relationship, any addiction or influence that’s stealing your affections and turning your heart away from your spouse.

Thursday, May 05, 2011

Day 22: Love is faithful

I will betroth you to Me in faithfulness. Then you will know the Lord. Hosea 2:20

TODAY’S DARE
Love is a choice, not a feeling. It is an initiated action, not a knee-jerk reaction. Choose today to be committed to love even if your spouse has lost most of their interest in receiving it. Say to them today in words similar to these, “I love you. Period. I choose to love you even if you don’t love me in return.”

Wednesday, May 04, 2011

Day 21: Love is satisfied in God

The Lord will continually guide you, and satisfy your desire. Isaiah 58:11

TODAY’S DARE
Be intentional today about making a time to pray and read your Bible. Try reading a chapter out of Proverbs each day (there are thirty-one—a full month’s supply), or reading a chapter in the Gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John). As you do, immerse yourself in the love and promises God has for you. This will add to your growth as you walk with Him.

Tuesday, May 03, 2011

Day 20: Love is Jesus Christ

While we were still helpless, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly.
Romans 5:6

TODAY’S DARE
Dare to take God at His Word. Dare to trust Jesus Christ for salvation. Dare to pray, “Lord Jesus, I’m a sinner. But You have shown Your love for me by dying to forgive my sins, and You have proven Your power to save me from death by Your resurrection. Lord, change my heart, and save me by Your grace.”

Monday, May 02, 2011

Day 19: Love is impossible

Let us love one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. 1 John 4:7

TODAY’S DARE
Look back over the dares from previous days. Were there some that seemed impossible to you? Have you realized your need for God to change your heart and to give you the ability to love? Ask Him to show you where you stand with Him, and ask for the strength and grace to settle your eternal destination.

Sunday, May 01, 2011

Day 18: Love seeks to understand

How blessed is the man who finds wisdom, and the man who gains understanding.
Proverbs 3:13

TODAY’S DARE
Prepare a special dinner at home, just for the two of you. The dinner can be as nice as you prefer. Focus this time on getting to know your spouse better, perhaps in areas you’ve rarely talked about. Determine to make it an enjoyable evening for you and your mate.